Bringing Forth Your True Gifts

(Not in spite of what broke you, but because of it)

I’ve lived most of my life feeling like I am being quietly destroyed by the slow grind of misrecognition. I initially thought this was only a difficulty in being understood by others but more recently I’ve realised that it has been my own difficulties in seeing myself that have caused me the most anguish. It took me a very long time to identify the endless performative giving and attuning, as not my self but self erasure. The roles I did not mean to audition for among the many other lifelong bids for intimacy now starts to feel more like erosion than love.

I’ve come to learn through my own unraveling, through the lives of those I sit with, and through the years I spent tracing the edges of power and incoherence in therapy—an important truth that what is destroying you often holds the key to the gift you are denying.

Usually, you are the last to see it.

We are taught to tidy ourselves and to curate coherence. But in reality, the gifts that matter most are born of disintegration and collapse, when you can’t quite escape the question: What parts of me had to be exiled for this structure to hold?

There’s a violence in being harvested for your light before you’ve had a chance to feel its warmth. There is a greater tragedy in realising you offered forth your light for fear of looking at it directly. So ensues a lifetime of attunement, intuition, containment—for everyone but yourself—leaving your gifts brittle, unseen, unlived and ungrieved.

The gift, then, begins not in doing, but in remembering: this is mine. It comes to me first.

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It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.

Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your own voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do.

Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.

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It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.

Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your own voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do.

Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.